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Having a complete guest list for both the bride and groom is an essential part of your wedding plans. When preparing your guest list be sure to invite everyone you want to be part of your exceptional day.

It has been a long time wedding tradition to send out invitations so your friends and loved ones know you are inviting then to be a part of your special day. They will also feel priviledged that you thought to include them.

Modern wedding invitations have become a huge part of the wedding. If details are neglected it shows careless wedding planning.

Here is useful information for those who want helpful tips.

1. When sending out your invitations, you should include a reply card.

The purpose for sending out wedding invitations is that you get an approximate count of guests that will attend your wedding. So having the reply card makes it easy for the guests to RSVP.

2. On your invitation be sure you are clear on what type of setting you are planning.

Weddings are usually planned as a formal event, however on many occasions the couple chooses to have a casual setting. So it is important to let your guest know what to expect so they to can plan ahead.

Another important factor to include is the dress code. Most guests appreciate knowing what you expect so they can be prepared before the wedding date.

3. If you are planning a more intimate wedding you may want to have personalized invitations.

When inviting only family and your closest friends it may be better to create your own invitations.Wedding invitations can be expensive so when working on a budget, if only a small amount of invitations are needed you may consider making your own.

4. When choosing your invitations you can include the colors of your wedding to be more creative.

You can not go wrong with white wedding invitations it seems to never go out of style. You may want to include the color of your wedding or colors that reflects your personality as a couple.

5.When choosing a design for your invitations you and your partners tastes should be considered.

For many years the traditional wedding invitations with bows, ribbons and flowers were considered as great designs however it can also be seen as dull, boring and lifeless.

You need to include the personal touch of you and your partner. Include a modern design which you both can agree on.

Wedding invitations are not like birthday invitations they have alot of meaning behind them.They allow your guests to see a part of you and your partners thoughts and ideas. It also lets them know that you want them to share in your special day.

Remember it is your way to tell the whole world how excited you are to spend the rest of your life with your very special someone. It is also your way for everyone to know just how much you love your lifemate.

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Psychologists use the term “imago”, Latin for “image”, to refer to the unconscious image that people develop from birth of their ideal mate or significant other. A dictionary definition of “imago” includes the following meanings: the representation of a person or a thing, a copy, a likeness and a mental picture. Essentially, it is a composite picture of the individuals who influenced a person the most during childhood.

People rely on their imago in their search for an ideal mate, someone who both resembles their primary caretakers and compensates for the repressed parts of themselves. This can be ones’ parents, one or two siblings, a close relative, or a babysitter. The important thing is that a persons’ brain records everything about them – the way they responded to ones’ cries, the sound of their voice, their emotions, their moods, the way they moved, the way they laughed or got angry, everything. In addition to these impressions, the brain also recorded every significant interaction with them. This data was merely stored in the brain and not interpreted, very much like downloading files onto a hard drive.

Many people have difficulty believing that their brain has recorded so much information, especially from such as early age. Most individuals have little or no memory of anything that happened to them before the age of five or six, even very traumatic events. However, studies have shown that we have vast amounts of data stored and hidden in our brains. Neurosurgeons discovered this while performing brain surgery on patients under local anesthesia. When parts of their brain were stimulated with weak electrical currents, the patients were suddenly able to recall hundreds of long-forgotten episodes from childhood in vivid detail.

Not all of these episodes are recorded with the same intensity though. The most vivid impressions seem to be the ones we formed of our caretakers early in life. And of all the interactions we had with these people, the ones that were most deeply etched in our subconscious were the ones that were the most wounding because these encounters seemed to threaten our very existence. Over time the pieces of information about our caretakers merged to form a single image and were stored under one heading: the person responsible our survival.

People have strong tendencies to be romantically attracted to another person based on how well that person matches the imago. The brain analyzes a persons’ traits and compares that with the rich data bank of information and if there is a strong correlation, there is a resultant attraction. We unconsciously compare everyone we meet to our imago and when there is a close match, we feel a sudden surge of interest.

As is typical with the unconscious mind, we have no real awareness of this imago matching process. The only way we can usually catch a glimpse of our imago is in dreams. In dreams, we have a tendency to merge people together. Thus, you may have a dream in which your spouse suddenly metamorphosed into one of your parents or during a dream your spouse and a parent played such similar roles that they became virtually indistinguishable.

However, performing certain exercises under the guidance of a qualified therapist can help to reveal the characteristics of a persons’ imago. By comparing the dominant character traits of ones’ spouse with those of ones’ primary caretakers, a person can readily observe the correlation that the unconscious mind draws between them. The imago is very much like a silhouette with few distinguishing physical characteristics but with the combined character traits of all of ones’ primary caretakers.

Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to Marriage Councelor

Long after the wedding is over, the cake has been eaten, the presents opened, and the guest have left you will have your wedding guest book. This is a very important part of the wedding because it will be one of the most important mementos of your special wedding day. It is the one thing that you will go back to time and again to spark the memories and relive your special day. This can also be a very useful reminder of why you wanted to get married and hopefully a little light at the end of a tunnel through some difficult times if need be.

In fact many couples today have more then one wedding guestbook. However they both serve a little different purpose. There is the traditional wedding guestbook that was present at the wedding where all of the family signed in and then another one that was used at the reception. Today many couples are opted for a smaller service and a bigger reception. This way the service can be for very close family and a few friends but the reception can include a bunch of people and become a real hopping party. By having two guest books you can make sure everyone signs their name in the guest book and hopefully leave a little message.

The most traditional type of wedding guest book of course is the white book with a white feather pen for guest to sign their name, leave an address and even a little personalized message. However, there is nothing to say you have to stick with tradition and you might want to find a guest book that better fits the theme of your wedding or even the colors of your wedding. Today you can find a wide variety of guest books in just about any color you choose. Also you can find a wide variety of non traditional wedding guest books that are not even books but rather other objects that people can sign.

Another type of wedding guest book might be a scrapbook. A friend of mine had one of these at her wedding and she didnt even know it until the wedding reception. One of her bridesmaids had purchased a large scrapbook and then decorated the front cover and the first page with pictures of the bride and groom at different times in their relationship together. She then left the rest of the pages blank. Guest were then able to not only sign the book but leave any type of message that they wanted. The best thing about this was some of the more artistic guest felt encouraged by the blank page and took the time to put in fun poems, sayings and even small art work. This has become one of her most treasured possessions and something she often goes back to look at.

Another fun option can be easily put together with a large poster board with a few pictures of the couple mounted to it. Again you can encourage guests to sign the poster board and leave a message or saying next to their signatures. You probably can not find this type of guest book at our local wedding supply store however more companies and creating alternative wedding guest book ideas and you can easily find one online. If you can not find something that suits your particular situation these ideas can easily be made with very little expense or time.

As with many things these days wedding guest books can be found in a variety of different places. If you can not find what you are looking for locally try searching on the internet. There are more and more companies selling very specialized products on the internet due to the low overhead. You will be surprised at the wide variety of options out there if you just take some time to look around. While you are shopping dont forget to pick up a great pen to use for the signatures.

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Bridal jewelry is the final touch that pulls the entire bridal look together with the bridal gown and hair. Selecting the bridal gown is the first and most important part, but the selection of the bridal jewelry is the icing on the cake. With bridal gown designers creating more varieties of dresses, the bridal jewelry industry must keep up. Many bridal gowns now have either pearl or swarovski crystal embellishments or a combination of both, leaving more options available for the selection of the bridal jewelry that will match.

Typically, in tradition, brides wore white or ivory pearls for their wedding day bridal jewelry. Whether the bride inherited the pearl bridal jewelry she wore on her wedding day or purchased new pearl bridal jewelry, pearls were what was traditionally worn for bridal jewelry. Many brides are still choosing to wear the traditional pearls for their bridal jewelry. Whether their mothers or grandmothers are passing down a family heirloom, or they are purchasing new pearl bridal jewelry, pearls are still a popular selection for many brides. Many bridal gowns available are embellished with pearls in the design of the bridal gown. For a lot of brides, selecting pearls not only matches their bridal gown perfectly, but still keeps the traditional pearl bridal jewelry theme.

The availability of bridal gowns with swarovski crystals is becoming extremely prevalent in bridal boutiques. Brides are searching for something new and different, and purchasing a bridal gown with swarovski crystals that sparkle and give that extra modern elegance is just what they are looking for. Due to this newer more modern trend of swarovski crystal embellished bridal gowns, the bridal jewelry industry is creating more and more swarovski crystal bridal jewelry to match. Incorporating swarovski crystals in your bridal jewelry selection is becoming easier to find and match to your bridal gown. The manufacturers of swarovski crystals are constantly making more color options available. So not only is it easier for brides to match their bridal jewelry to their bridal gowns, but finding matching bridal jewelry for their bridesmaids gowns is also easier. Because the swarovski crystal bridal jewelry is expanding, brides are making their bridal jewelry selections easier and with a lot less stress. Finding the perfect crystal bridal jewelry to match the embellishments and design of your bridal gown is more than important, it is what finishes off your bridal jewelry look.

For other brides, a combination of both pearls and crystals in their bridal jewelry is what they are looking for. Whether their bridal gowns include both pearls and crystals, or they just want the traditional bridal look mixed with the modern bridal jewelry look, a combination of pearls and crystals for bridal jewelry is one of the most popular selections among brides. Mixing tradition with modern elegance and sophistication in your bridal jewelry look is a great way to include your something old with a something new, per say. Because more and more bridal gowns are including both pearls and crystals, your bridal jewelry needs to match that look as well.

Whatever your bridal gown selection, choosing bridal jewelry that matches perfectly is important to finish off your bridal jewelry look. With more and more bridal jewelry designers and bridal jewelry boutiques and companies, it is becoming an easier task for brides to find that perfect bridal jewelry to match their bridal gowns. Make sure to find the perfect bridal jewelry to finish off your bridal jewelry look. Whether you are wanting traditional bridal jewelry or modern bridal jewelry or a combination of both, bridal jewelry stores and bridal jewelry designers have what you are looking for, exquisite bridal jewelry to match your gorgeous bridal gown.

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Youve done everything it takes to get your own game together, and youve been a man or woman who deserves what you want for sometime now. In fact, youve found a partner as terrific as you are, and the question has inevitably surfaced: Is it time to “pop the question” around here?

I believe a lot of us really have not spent enough time ruminating upon what it really takes to consider a decision to make marriage plans. And make no mistake, my friends, this is the kind of thought that should go on long before you are ever in the position to actually act upon what you think and / or feel.

Indeed, getting engaged should never be a “knee-jerk” decision. In fact, nothing involving “jerks” of any kind should ever be a consideration.

So whether you are in a serious relationship right now or not, lets consider the top ten signs to look for when considering marriage:

1) You are attracted to each other

First, you absolutely, positively must be sexually attracted to the object of your affection. This is NOT being shallow, as weve discussed previously. Dont you appreciate how I freely endorse making this a priority? Thought so. Feel better now? LOL

2) You actually like each other

Laugh if you will, but Ive seen first-hand how couples justify long-term relationships despite getting on each others nerves big time. I personally dont get it, and if you deserve what you want I surely hope you dont want that.

3) Youve spent enough time together to really know each other

Lets not talk in terms of calendar time here. If a couple is in a long-distance-relationship (LDR) for two years and see each other once a month for two days, they may see each other about as much as a couple who lives two blocks apart and has been joined at the hip since they met a month ago. When you know that youve seen the person at his or her most relaxed (and at his or her worst, for that matter), then and only then are you in a position to speculate regarding what the future really holds.

4) You are on the same page spiritually

Dont underestimate the importance of this. If you believe that God should be at the center of your relationship, it can only be that way if your would-be partner agrees. If this hasnt been talked about yet, make it a priority to do so. Even if you are both agnostic or atheist, for that matter, its still a good idea to discuss your world views and make sure you are in agreement on what your core beliefs are.

5) Your long-term goals are similar

If your futures are taking you in different directions, either someone is going to have to compromise, or your futures dont have each other in them. Period.

6) You know how to play together

Sure, she goes shoe shopping while he watches the NFL. But do you know how to enjoy leisure time together? Were not just talking about sex here? I always thought it would be amazing to find a woman who would want to go BMX racing with me. As it turns out, that wasnt so farfetched. Couples who play together stay together.

7) You both want to be married

Do both of you really desire marriage? If you feel you are trying to persuade someone out of the single life who still wants to be there then guess what…you are not making valuable use of your time.

The basics in your lives are handled

Are you mentally and physically healthy? Is your self-esteem in good shape? If you carry heavy concerns that consume you, its not time to invite someone else into your world permanently. After all, that would only give your heavy concerns someone else to consume. And thats not part of a balanced relationship.

9) You have no doubt in your mind that your partner is committed to you as you are to him/her

Ah yes…the “trust” factor. Kill all jealousy in order to ready yourself for a committed relationship. And make darn skippy sure thats okay to do. If there are signs your future husband or wife would cheat on you, then forgettaboutit. Really.

10) You have no doubt in your mind that you are committed to your partner as he/she is to you

Turnabout is fair play here. Are you completely sure you are trustworthy? Do you harbor fantasies about cheating on your future spouse? If you are focusing too much on someone else-especially if that “someone else” is potentially available to you, then my suggestion is to get that resolved before feigning “commitment” to someone who would be truly committed to you.

Whether you feel you are ready for marriage or not is okay. One should never feel pressured either way. The framework for a solid marriage with a great long-term prognosis can only be established when both partners truly want to be there…and believe wholeheartedly in both the future and in each other.

After all, isnt that what love is for?

Copyright 2006 X and Y Communications

Want to hear more? Scot McKay is a dating coach in San Antonio, TX and founder of X and Y Communications, a one-stop-shop for dating resources. He is the author of the new book “Deserve What You Want”, and hosts the popular podcast series “X and Y On The Fly”. He may be reached at [email protected] or on the Web at http://www.dating-advice.us/ and http://www.romantic-dinner.com . The podcast series is available free of charge at http://feeds.feedburner.com/xyonthefly .

Anger can be extremely destructive in a relationship. It can have equally negative consequences whether it is acted out upon or repressed. A marriage counsellor must seek effective methods to deal with the issue of anger to assist couples in their quest to develop a loving, supportive and long-lasting relationship.

When anger is expressed, it can leave the person on the receiving end feeling traumatized even when there is no physical violence involved. An interesting phenomenon is that the person who demonstrated the rage also feels assaulted. This is due to the workings of the unconscious mind that perceives all actions as directed toward oneself. Therefore, when we inflict pain upon our partners, we also hurt ourselves. It then follows that anger has a definite negative effect on a relationship. Partners simply have a difficult time establishing intimacy because their safety feels threatened.

Repressed anger can have equally devastating effects as expressed anger. Often, repression can lead to an empty marriage, especially when one’s anger is turned inward and manifests itself as depression. An example of this will serve to illustrate this point. Let’s say that an individual has an older sibling that was very rebellious and hostile during their youth and as a result was constantly being severely punished. The individual associated expressing anger with being punished and therefore repressed anger and hid it from their parents and, later in life, from their spouse.

This same individual ended up playing the role of the “good child” during childhood who never raised a fuss about anything. This served a purpose in childhood, but later in life, this adaptation became very damaging in a marriage. The constant hiding of anger extended itself to the person feeling that they must also suppress their sexuality and other forms of excitement because this heightened activity and energy felt threatening.

The turning inward of anger into depression left the individuals’ partner feeling unsatisfied and searching for fulfillment of desires outside of marriage. A marriage counsellor could do well here to help the repressed individual get in touch with their anger and pain and express it in a meaningful way in a supportive environment.

It is often difficult for people to deal with their hidden anger and pain. For most of us, we learned during childhood that anger is a bad thing and we were punished or criticized for it. We were left with the option to express it and face the consequences or to keep it inside where it wouldn’t do us or anyone else any harm. However, when we chose to dampen our anger, we also chose to dampen our capacity to love because love and anger are two sides of the same coin. They are both related to our life energy or life force. When we feel love our life force flourishes; when we feel rage, we experience our life energy as being cut off or stunted.

Anger is therefore an essential expression of our life energy and when we repress this, we become depressed or live a pale, muted existence. However, we are liable to harm ourselves and others if we act on our anger. Containment is a process that allows us to release our anger without hurting our loved ones. A therapist can assist a person to let loose of anger in small, controlled amounts in a safe environment and help to turn it back to its original, positive life-giving form.

Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to Marriage Councelor

The aim of marriage counselling should be to help couple move towards a conscious marriage. A definition of this would be a marriage that allows the opportunity for maximum psychological and spiritual growth by becoming conscious of and cooperating with the basic goals of the unconscious mind: to be safe, to be healed and to be whole.

1. The hidden purpose of marriage is to heal childhood wounds.

This involves helping individuals recognize their unresolved childhood issues and how these issues underlie their current behaviour and emotions. This will help people to transcend their surface needs and desires and provide them with great insight into their everyday interactions.

2. Creating a more accurate image of a persons’ partner.

People tend to fuse their lover with their primary caretaker and then project their own negative traits onto their partner. In a conscious marriage these illusions gradually become shattered and one begins to see their partner as they really are; another wounded person struggling to be healed.

3. A person takes responsibility for communicating their needs and desires to their partner.

In an unconscious marriage a person expects their partner to intuitively meet their needs. A conscious marriage involves the understanding that needs require clear communication.

4. Your interactions become more intentional.

A conscious marriage entails behaving in a more constructive manner as opposed to merely reacting without thinking.

5. An individual values their partners’ needs as much as their own.

More energy is devoted to looking after ones’ partner instead of mistakenly assuming that the role of the partner is to look after ones’ every wish and desire.

6. A person embraces their negative traits.

The individual openly acknowledges the fact that they have a dark side to their personality, just like everyone else. By accepting this, a person is less likely to project these negative traits onto their partner, which serves to create a more pleasant environment.

7. New methods are learned to satisfy ones’ basic needs and desires.

When couples are locked in a power struggle, the partners tend to use negative tactics in an attempt to coerce the other to meet their needs. In a conscious marriage this can be transcended and a realization develops that the partner can help one meet their needs but only when more constructive and cooperative tactics are employed.

8. A person will learn to look inwards for the strengths and abilities they are lacking.

Partners are chosen because an individual can see in them all the abilities and strengths that they do not have. This then leads to an illusory sense of wholeness. However, in a conscious marriage a person learns that wholeness results from finding these positive traits within themselves.

9. An awareness develops of the motivation to become loving, whole and at one with the universe.

Everyone has the God-given ability to love unconditionally and experience the unity of nature and the world. However, due to imperfect parenting and social conditioning these qualities are almost all but forgotten. A conscious marriage provides the opportunity to rediscover these qualities and experience ones’ original nature.

10. The fact that creating a conscious marriage is difficult is accepted.

Typically, in an unconscious marriage, a person feels that a successful relationship involves being with the right person. In a conscious marriage, a person comes to the realization that they are with the right partner. Further, an understanding begins to develop that a good marriage requires constant hard work, courage and commitment.

Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to Marriage Councelor

Some of your wedding guests may be traveling great distances to get to your wedding. Some may even be flying to get to your wedding. Should you serve them the same type of meal that they got on the plane or should you serve them something better? I have included a menu below which is presented as an alternative to the usual wedding menu of baked chicken or broiled fish, vegetable, and roll.

This menu was served at a great price. Our caterer is exceptional. He has experience in some of the best restaurants in Washington, DC. Because of this, he likes to prepare more complicated meals than the usual wedding menu. He worked with my future wife to prepare this menu. I am hoping that you will find some great ideas from it. For example, we are having cupcakes presented on a tiered fashion that looks like a wedding cake instead of the wedding cake. Why? Our wedding is outdoors. We have many children in attendance. Finally, we wanted to end the meal in a less formal manner.

Enjoy the menu.

Hot and Cold Hors d Oeuvres

Croque Monsieur Black forest Ham and Gruyere Cheese Baked finger Sandwiches

Smoked Salmon in Pastry cup with Cream cheese and capers

Cilantro Shrimp on Skewers

Crab meat spoons-drizzled with marry rose and mango, pear, peach, honey and sake salsa served in Chinese spoons

Creamed Roquefort and toasted walnuts on crostini

Petite Quiche Prosciutto and Florentine

BUFFET DISPLAY

SALADS

Harvest Salad

Poached Pears atop red baby mixed green, Belgium endive drizzled with honey mustard vinaigrette and sprinkled with walnuts and dried cranberries

Salad Louisette Wedges of Iceberg Lettuce and Radicchio topped with Gorgonzola Cheese Crumbles, crispy Bacon and Julienne of Red Peppers in French dressing

Dalmatino Caesar Salad Topped with freshly grated Parmesan and Garlic Croutons with home made dressing

COOKING CORNER

Display of Scottish smoked Salmon Served with the traditional Condiments

Grilled Chicken Marinated with Garlic, Olive Oil and fresh Thyme served with a Madeira Mushroom Sauce

Marinated Grilled Flank Steak Creamy horseradish sauce and Dijon Mustard

Roasted Leg of Lamb With Rosemary Au Jus

Pasta Station

Penne Pasta With your choice of toppings Meatless marinara, Bolognese or Basil Pesto made to order

VEGETABLES AND SIDES

Saffron flavored Rice Pilaf

Marinated Medley of Grilled Vegetables

Crisp Asparagus, Fresh baby Carrots, Yellow and green Squash, Italian Eggplant, Grilled baby Artichokes, Portabella Mushrooms and Roasted Red Bliss Potatoes topped with a Roasted Pepper Confetti

String Beans Almandine French Green beans sautè(c)ed with Shaved Almonds

Assorted Breads, Rolls and Butter

CAKE: Cup Cakes (chocolate cup cakes made with dark chocolate white icing and slightly yellowish tinting each decorated separately)

Assortment of Home made Brownies, Lemon Squares and Chocolate chip cookies

Will be presented on separate table in a shape of wedding cake with floral decoration.

BAR SET UP

Beer

Non-Alcoholic Lemonade and Iced Tea

Cabernet Sauvignon

Chardonnay

Champagne for toast

Copyright 2006 Andrew Horan

The menu prepared for the wedding of Andrew Horan (http://www.myhoranwedding.com) prepared by Vinko Marinkovic (http://www.dalmatinocatering.com)

Most brides can quickly end up spending thousands of dollars for one special day in their life. This is fin and you want everything to be the absolutely magical for your wedding. However if there are some ways to save money then why not? It is always great to save money and still look great. Cheap bridal shoes are a good way to cut costs.

Cheap bridal shoes do not have to look cheap, old fashioned or out of style. There are where you can purchase elegant but cheap wedding shoes if you only know where to look.

Great Sources For Cheap Bridal Shoes

There are numerous ways to find cheap bridal shoes. Two of the best ways are to look at local bridal shops and at department stores. They often offer cheap bridal shoes with designer inspired styles.

For example if you are looking for a great pair of Vera Wang bridal shoes why not look at department stores. Often they will carry a wide variety of Vera Wang inspired shoes. These will be made by other manufacturers many you have probably never heard of. However for many the name of the shoe makes matter less then the design. So if you are looking for a great design but cheaper wedding shoe then a Vera Wang inspired shoe is a great way to go.

Macys is a great department store to try. They often carry a wide variety of designs by lesser known manufacturers but will be able to pass the savings on to you. Keep in mind that they are somewhat limited and you might not find the hottest Jimmy Choo designer wedding shoe but you can often find something that will work for your situation.

Cheap bridal shoes can be found at many different stores in a variety of styles if you do some work and look hard to find the best deals. You can often find peep-toe, ankle strap, pumps and sandals in various colors and styles. You can also purchase a pair of dyeable cheap bridal shoes if you want the color of the shoe to match a certain color used in your wedding.

When To Shop For Cheap Bridal Shoes

Knowing where to shop is half the battle and a great way to get discounted brial shoes. However if you want the best quality and true rock bottom prices then you have to not only know where to shop but when to shop also. You can often find your discount bridal shoes for the best possible price when you know the specific month when they will be on sale.

You can often simply ask at your local bridal shop when the shoes go on sale. Generally speaking however there are certain times of year when the shoes go on sale. For example often in the month of January after the holiday season shoes will go on sale. Then again in October a few weeks after the back to school rush. However just to be sure and know your particular location it cant hurt to ask.

Also you want to understand how season inventory works. All clothing inventory is seasonal and changes with the four seasons. For example an open toe bridal sandal is going to look kind of strange in the middle of winter. So often at the end of a season as the new clothes hit the market stores are forced to sell off their existing inventory to make way for the new shoes. So if you are having a wedding in the late Spring then this year right after that time passes go in a snag a good deal on heavily discounted designer inspired bridal shoes. If you are have a winter wedding then go in late August and pick up a great deal on your wedding shoes.

There are a lot of different ways to save big money on your wedding shoes and if they look almost the same as the more expensive version then why not save the extra buck. It always helps a new struggling family out to have a little extra money for the things ahead…

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If you have ever stood in front of your nicely stocked closet, had a number of discarded outfits beginning to pile up on the bed, and still had no clue what to wear to the occasion that you are already running late for, then you should know that you are not alone! As a matter of fact, there is not one woman alive who cannot boast the same difficulty at one point or another. Of course, the other reason why the outfits are piling up could be the fact that a well-meaning spouse or friend took one critical look at the ensemble you were wearing and simply remarked “you’re not wearing that, are you?”. While this indecisiveness appear to be epidemic for New Years Eve parties, the company holiday party, and assorted other celebrations of friends and families, thus far a bridal shower has not really ranked as an event that required a special kind of attire. Nonetheless, don’t you wish somebody would have given you a hint as to what kind of dress would be appropriate? Perhaps it is time for this to change! After all, you have spent a lot of time coming up with the perfect bridal shower theme, so why not go all the way and choose your bridal shower attire accordingly?

For example, if you are planning a bridal shower for your friend who will be going to Hawaii on her honeymoon, why not make the theme, as well as the attire, a Hawaiian celebration? Guests could wear Hawaiian shirts, dresses, perhaps even grass skirts! On the other hand, if the bride will be going surfing, why not dress in the height of California surfer fashion, complete with bleached blond wig and cut out surf board? As you can see, the possibilities for bridal shower attire are truly endless and guests as well as the bride will be able to capitalize on the individuality of the bride, her planned honeymoon, or simply the interests her and the groom share. If you are more formally oriented, or if the shower will be held at a formal location, you may wish to stay with the conservative ensemble of a skirt and blouse, or perhaps a pair of dressy slacks and a nice blouse. Depending on the kind of bridal shower you are planning for the bride to be, it is imperative to communicate the propriety of attire to the shower guests. As a matter of fact, there are actually some commonly understood “buzz words” that get the point across without getting into too much detail.

If you will be having a fancy party at a luxury restaurant, please be sure to include on the invitation that the dress should be “cocktail attire.” This signals to the invitee that this is the equivalent of a black tie affair, and she will know to get the little black dress off the hanger and pressed. This is especially appropriate for exclusive restaurants or hotels.

If the party is not held at the ritziest place in town but a close second runner up, please be sure to specify “evening resort attire.” This simply means an alternative to the little black dress, such as a nice conservative yet festive dress or skirt and blouse.

Once step down from this occasion would be “business casual” or “resort attire.” This is most appropriate if the party is held at the local country club. Shorts, skorts, and even short skirts are appropriate, if they are properly cut and fit well. This is not the time for the bargain basement mini skirt!

As you can see, questions of fashionable attire are entirely appropriate when considering attending or hosting a bridal shower. If you are fortunate enough to be hosting one, please take the guests’ guess work out of the equation, and instead let them know how to dress for the occasion! On the other hand, if you are on the guest list of a bridal shower, be sure to ask if there will be a dress code. Most often you will be able to glean this bit of information when taking a look at the location of the event, but in case you are unfamiliar with the venue, a quick phone call to the hostess will clear up any questions and prevent embarrassing misunderstandings.

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